Valentine's Day: Do You Feel Behind?

Hey there,

Yesterday I posted a story asking if you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day.

Most of the answers were:
“Don’t remind me.”

And honestly… I felt that.

Because here’s something I don’t usually say out loud:
I’ve never been in a relationship either.

So if Valentine’s Day feels a little awkward for you — or even heavy — you’re not alone.
Not even close.

Every year, this day has a way of making people feel like they’re late.
Like everyone else figured something out and you didn’t.
Like love is a train that already left the station.

But I don’t think that’s true.

What I do think is that a lot of good people feel lonely, not because they’re unlovable — but because they compare their timing to everyone else’s.

And timing is not something you can copy.

Some people meet their person early.
Others meet them later.
Some meet them when they finally stop chasing the idea of being in a relationship and start becoming themselves.

There’s no correct schedule.

At the same time, I want to be honest with you — and this is the encouraging part.

If you never go out.
If you never allow yourself to be seen.
If you never put yourself in situations where connection could happen…

Then nothing will magically change.

Love doesn’t find you while you hide from life.

But — and this matters — you can’t force it either.

The more you pressure it, the worse it gets.
The more you need it to happen, the more desperate it feels.
And desperation pushes people away, even when your heart is in the right place.

I’ve learned that relationships aren’t built when you’re trying to fill a void.
They’re built when two whole people meet.

So yes — go out.
Talk to people.
Live your life.

But don’t beg the universe for love.
Don’t treat Valentine’s Day like a deadline.

Some things work better when they arrive on their own.

I truly believe in God’s timing.
Not because it’s comforting — but because every time I rushed something in my life, it fell apart.
And every time I trusted the process, things aligned when I was actually ready.

So if today feels quiet…
If it feels a little lonely…

It doesn’t mean you’re behind.
It might just mean you’re being prepared.

And if today feels like a good moment to invest a little more in yourself — not out of pressure, but out of care — I want you to know this.

For Valentine’s Day, I’m offering 35% off my course for less than 24 hours.

If you feel ready to work on yourself, build clarity and move forward with intention, this is one of this year’s biggest chances.

Much love,
Joseph
Founder of Iliovacinema